Why is BNF considered a pejorative?You don’t have the ego problems that usually lead to it being used as a pejorative, so embrace it!
I feel these comments go together somehow….:D
BNF can be used pejoratively to imply that the person in question is putting on airs, getting above themselves, or being arrogant/egotistical; it can also subtly refer to someone who is not above encouraging bad behavior on the part of their followers. Some BNFs in the early days of LJ, and really reaching as far back as the old usenet days, could have some pretty problematic behaviors that inspired this perception. People who have large readerships now still sometimes get tarred with that brush, whether they engage in those behaviors or not — and sometimes if they engage in perfectly normal behavior that reads to outsiders like egotism because of the context it’s in. I honestly think most BNFs don’t have the BNF Problem, their awkwardness is just magnified by the size of their readership.
For example, most people online form friendships, and often form small inner communities of friends with shared in-jokes, catchphrases, and general experiences. That’s normal human behavior, having friends, having a circle of friends. But when you’re a BNF, and people want to enter your circle of friends because you have prestige or the attention of a lot of people or for whatever reason, that person’s totally normal friendships can look to outsiders like a clique or even a conspiracy. I’ve been accused of having a clique; no, what I have is friends. If a BNF is quiet because they’re shy, it can be seen as aloofness; if they have a disagreement with someone, it can be seen as an attack. Because of an external perception, that I have a clique and I’m king of it (which is laughably untrue), I can be seen as one of “those” BNFs, the kind who gathers followers and then holds merciless sway over them.
The stakes are just higher — you get more attention, your work gets more attention, and when you make a mistake, you suffer for it far longer than someone else might. That’s just how it rolls; you take the good with the bad.
The truth is I’m a klutz who routinely falls over while doing yoga, I’m socially awkward enough in person that I have very few brickspace close friends, and I do what I can to get along in life, the same as everyone else. Nobody is universally liked, and of course I don’t enjoy being disliked, but I’m willing to deal with that for the pleasure the rest of my online interactions bring me.
Honestly, I think there’s also a strong sexism element to this. Copperbadge aside, a lot of BNF are women, because fandom tends to be a female dominated space.
The attitude that certain popular people are getting arrogant/above themselves/etc carries a higher penalty for women than for men, even within majority-female groups. And it finds fertile ground in a place like fandom - geeky girls are often taught to embrace the Exceptional Woman trope to better fit in with their geeky male friends. That kind of internalized sexism often creates a backlash against other women who either aren’t performing Geekdom “correctly” or who are somehow “showing up” the rest of us by being really great at Geekdom and admitting it publicly.
It’s depressing as shit, but women are really great and pulling down other women who show any kind of pride in their own work.
I just bought $20 worth of wine, and $40 worth of cat food. CATLADY LEVEL 5000: UNLOCKED
How do people at my office consistently fail to understand that if conference room 9147 is on the 9th floor, then conference 1147 is on the first floor? Absolutely everybody thinks it should be on the 11th floor, despite a) 10th floor rooms having 5 digits (eg. conference room 10147) and b) there is no 11th floor in the building.
MEETING ON THE ROOF TODAY, GUYS. THE WIFI IS GREAT UP HERE.
I am perpetually saying to myself, “what if I could just take a pill, and not sleep ever?” and then I remember that that’s meth, and it’s a bad idea.
Just because the good cops are in town now doesnt mean that the system is fixed bruh. These cops that were using unnecessary force must be put to justice by a court of their peers as criminals. Bills for stricter police control need to be introduced and laws must be passed. The people are safe now but by every meaning of the phrase: stay woke
getting absolutely nothing done today, too busy watching the Ferguson situation in dismay. I’m hundreds of miles away, but at least I can be a witness.
The eternal post gym question: do I put back on my gross sweaty panties, or do I freeflap it home in a pencil skirt?